As leaders, it can often feel lonely at the top, but it is essential that we create a team of peers that we can rely on to help us when things get tough. Like everyone else, we need help, often.
Research has shown that individuals with close, confiding deep relationships live longer, are more resilient, and are statistically happier. Close relationships also give leaders the opportunity to feel seen with compassion instead of constantly feeling that they need to be perfect.
Reflect on the people in your life that you rely on for support. List their names below.
Beside their names, write one thing that they help you with or one way they support you.
Beside that, write one thing you do to support them.
Now take some time to reflect on areas of your life where you would like more support. Be specific, what do you need help with and what do you want this person to do to support you?
Now, reflect through your team listed above and decide who you would like to ask to take on this new role?
Your challenge is to now take some time to reach out and thank each one of these people for the way they support you. Clarify what specifically you appreciate, and what they do to support you. Then ask them if there is anything you can do to support them.
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